I actually wrote this over the weekend, but didn't finish it until this morning. I still left it in Saturdays context, as it made more since that way! My Focus goals for January 21-25 are at the bottom.
Life isn't about how you survived the storm...it's about how you danced in the rain.(author unknown)
This morning I prayed for focus, as I do many mornings, but this time I also asked God to help me to not let myself off the hook so easy. While drinking my coffee I decided I’d read a couple chapters in the bible. I am reading the book of Numbers, if you have read it before it is easy to let your mind wonder. So a few paragraphs in I was negotiating with myself, I’ll just read one chapter today after all it is Saturday. When I came to the end of the first chapter it ended with, “spoke to him...…..” Really!? I cannot remember another chapter that ended that way. It was unfinished, to be continued if you will. Have you ever noticed sometimes when you ask God for help with something he sends you a challenge? So I took the challenge and read on thinking I bet I am going to learn something great reading this chapter. It wasn’t bad but not inspiring like I had hoped. Then I realized maybe that was the point, it wasn’t about what I was going to get out of reading on, it was about the focus to continue that mattered. I felt better, for at least once this week I did not give in to my negotiations.
You can probably guess by the last statement I am disappointed and unsatisfied with how last week turned out. Not because my house wasn’t clean like I had hoped at the end of Friday, though it wasn’t. Quit honestly I spent so much time “planning how to get it all clean” I never got to the actual cleaning part. I am disappointed in my lack of mental strength to get things done. I actually justified not getting chores done because I was making a schedule to help to get them done better. What sense does that make?
When I wanted to break 5 minutes in the mile in college, I didn’t come to practice and tell my coach I couldn’t workout today because I was working on a great training plan. I also did not stop halfway through because practice wasn’t going as I planned. I showed up each day and finished each workout. Sometimes I wondered if it was even worth putting my shoes on, but I did it anyway and it was worth it.
Getting better at things requires practice. I tell my kids this all the time when they ask if they could just play games and not practice. Just like training for a race or a game you should not skip a workout or even worse give up in the middle of one. Some practices you trudge through and maybe even walk through the finish line. In this case never get past the morning chores for the day. It’s easier to start negotiating the worth of the day and decide it’s a loss and give up, just like I wanted to stop reading. The days you keep your focus despite the fact you may not have a sparkling clean house at the end are the best days of training. Days, weeks or what the heck months like this build your mental strength. Ask any athlete how far they can get on a good training plan alone, not very far. Do you really need mental strength to clean the house? I don’t know about you but my mind is what normally lets me off the hook in anything I do. I used to be so productive and mentally strong sometimes I wonder if that strength is gone? No, I think I am just mentally out of shape, physically too but that’s another story.
With this said we need take into consideration the kid factor. Kids are kind of like the weather. What do you do if it starts storming when you are working out, allow yourself to be hit by lightning? No you head in and adjust the workout for the day. When you become a mother the ability to have uninterrupted work time is over. Let’s face it despite the drought we are having outside it storms daily at my house. How many times have I been cruising along feeling good about my progress only to turn around and see the toys I just organized are in a big pile again? Or just when I am thinking how nice it is to have quiet while balancing the checkbook my thoughts quickly change to, oh no why is it quiet? You explore a bit and discover your two year old decided she was hungry and spilled half the bag of cereal on the carpet. Working through lunch is no longer an option. Then when I am folding the third load of laundry and am nicely asked to unscrew the lid of her chapstic, and without thinking I actually do it. I later clean it off of her, the coach, and a Rubbermaid tub of toys; those are only the spots I found. Let’s face it your routine is interrupted daily, wait hourly, no wait by the minute! Seriously when’s the last time you went to the bathroom without someone hunting you down?
Right now you might be wondering which is it Samantha, stay focused and stop making excuses or don’t worry you have kids and they are your excuse?
Both! There will be days you’ll get up and put your running shoes on and never make it out the door. But don’t take them off and put on your slippers. At the end of the day just like at the end of Numbers 8 the result may not be inspiring. Some days you just do the best you can. If you did you best it won’t bother you if your goals for Monday become your goals for Tuesday. Only you know what your best for that day is, and there will be days when you don’t give it all we are human. When this happens instead of trying to justify it take a moment to refocus, re-tie your shoes and keep running. You never know when you will finally break the 5 minute mile. When I finally did it was in practice.
PS: I have nothing against training in slippers I do! It was just a fun comparison. :)
New goals, comments and excuses :) are in purple.
FOCUS for January 21-25, 2013
Goals for a Better Home
1. Personal Focus to better my relationship with God.
Daily: Start and end each day with prayer. Read two chapters in the Bible.
Weekly: Read one article from the Leaven Newspaper and one chapter in Reasons to Believe (I have been working on this book for awhile) to learn more about my Faith. RUN.
Monthly: Find and order a Bible Study for Lent. I have narrowed the options.
2. Remove distractions at key times.
Daily: No computer 6:30-8:00am and 3:00-5:00(or after everyone is home for the day)
Weekly: Less TV and computer for my husband and me after the kids are in bed.(Lets try it again it was harder than I thought)
Monthly: Plan a NO Electronics evening for the family. (NOT a popular idea we’ll see how it goes.)
3. Add something to give more of me to my family.
Daily: Give my family a proper send off and welcome home each day. Focused one on one time with each kid and my husband every day! Read out of the children’s Bible before bedtime prayers (they liked this so I will keep it).
Weekly: Discuss, at each of their age levels, what the baby bottle collection for Mary's Choices that we brought home from church is for. Plan child #4’s Birthday party. Both still on the to do list, and child #4 was still sick until yesterday! RUN
Monthly: Plan a study for the family for Lent. I have some options!
Goals for a Better House
1. Daily: Have 3 daily “Check Points” for daily chores or routines.
Check Point 1(9:00): Kitchen straightened, previous day catch up, get dressed, make bed, one load of laundry started, pets fed, have a plan for dinner.
Check Point 2(3:30): Laundry/Mud room, kitchen, dining & living room straighten. Kids’ beds made (hopefully this will become their habit). Daily laundry folded and put away.
Check Point 3 (After Dinner): Kitchen, dining room and living room straightened up, backpacks ready for the morning.
2. Weekly: Daily Tasks
Monday: Weekly planning; make a to do list, update the calendar, and pay bills(first and 3rd weeks).
Tuesday: Finish a house cleaning schedule, that I will do, kid’s chores schedule, and Household Purge schedule (Still needed). Print all and hang them in view!
Wednesday: Plan meal menu for the next week (Thurs-Weds), make grocery list, balance checkbook (weekly deposit, finish budget and get spreadsheet posted).
Thursday: Weekly errands; Christmas returns still not done! Drop off recycles, go to bank, and Grocery store. Help kids straighten their rooms in the evening.
Friday: Cleaning Day and weekly catch up!
3. Monthly: Projects (big and small)
Start my 2013 “Household Purge”! This week’s rooms: the kitchen and dining room!