Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Embrace that Project Calling your Name! &FOCUS Goals for Feb 25, 203



We are having snow day #3 at our house today, 2 days last week back on Monday and home again today. This of course interrupts my routine a bit, but I don’t mind I love having the kids home, it is bonus time with them in our busy lives!

Last week I didn’t cross a lot off my list. I don’t think I even posted a score last week trust me if I had it wouldn’t have been good. With that said I actually did accomplish a few projects that had been sitting waiting for my attention. Sometimes you have to embrace what you are driven to get done even if it’s not on your list. I find that forcing myself to stick to a project I have planned when another is really calling my name that day results in slow progress or even sitting idle all day. I am not saying procrastinate things that need to be done there is definitely a fine line, but changing projects is not always a bad thing. Normally I can accomplish things faster if am working on something I have true motivation for finishing.  So I took a few detours this week but I am glad I did.

The outgrown clothes tubs in the girl’s room are empty and packed away into their appropriate tub by size for others to grow into. What a relief as they were overflowing, which I guess counts towards the “Girls room Purge” so it’s not as much of a detour as I thought.

One of my laundry baskets has been tied up for months holding hand-me-down clothes from our niece for the girls. It was also emptied in this process and sorted into the appropriate tub by size.  I gained back 1-1/2 x 3 sf area in my room.

Finally my overflowing make shift household command center that has been staring me down for weeks finally got my attention. So glad it did, it made the rest of the week easier when I wasn’t digging through every folder each time to find something my “order” was disorder. I had found an idea somewhere online on how to file to do items. They included bills and other mail too I stuck to my system for that because it worked. I gave the idea a go 6 months but it just isn’t working well for me. It has helped limit the piles of to do’s on the countertop, only to move them into overflowing file folders which were harder to sort through when I needed something.  So if I was going to need something soon it ended up in a pile by the phone for easy access the next time. I am now trying a variation on the folders, writing about my mail sorting last week gave me an idea. I’ll give it a try and let you know how it goes.

Simple solutions that work for Our House:
Problem: My mind couldn’t store all our family’s places to be.
Our Solution: For many years now we have hung a large calendar by the phone to schedule all our events. Everything is available at quick glance. When a phone call comes in with a new date, it goes immediately on the calendar. As do all the dates for school, church, sports practices and games, meetings, birthdays, appointments etc... I think I will still keep my calendar even if I learn to have a phone calendar someday like the rest of the world.   

FOCUS Goals for week of Feb 25, 2013
New Goals, comments, and excuses are in purple below.
Goals for a Better Home
1. Personal Focus to better my relationship with God.
Daily: Start and end each day with prayer. Read two chapters in the Bible. Serenity Prayer  
Weekly/Monthly:
Read Part II Chapter 1 & 2 in “The Lamps Supper” and answer questions. Unfortunately due to weather we cancelled the second session, and we didn’t even end up getting the big snow bummer! Oh well we are reading on and I am learning a lot! I am so glad to be reading this book.
 Run 4 days.  I think I forgot about the running last week, or maybe dismissed it from my mind. I hope to get back on track this week by dropping back to 4 days.  

2. Remove distractions at key times.
Daily: No computer 6:30-8:00am and 3:00-5:00pm (after everyone is home)
Weekly: Control volunteering but still get things done! Still trying to find the right balance!
Monthly: CUT BACK ON ELECTRONIC TIME! So easy to pick them up yet hard to put down!  

3. Add something to give more of me to my family.
Daily: Give my family a proper send off and welcome home each day. Focused one on one time with each family member.  Family Lent study. This has been better for the 3 oldest the younger 2 ask me to read out of their children’s bible afterward so we have been doing that too.
Weekly: Send a handwritten letter.  I still have not taken the time, so sad. We did mail about 6 letters my 7 year old had piled up waiting for me to address, stamp for her and send. These were in my to do folders.
Monthly: Take my husband on a date.  
Goals for a Better House
1. Daily Check Points: Weekly Plan Sheet (Done)
2. Weekly & Monthly Tasks, Chores and To Do Lists: Weekly Plan Sheet & Monthly Cleaning Schedule. Cleaning still always a catch up game, but having a schedule has helped me to stay on track a little more.
3. Weekly/Monthly Project to Do List:  
Monday: Weekly: Catch up! Prep Book Study, Soccer emails(snow is causing the need for much communication!) Monthly: None
Tuesday: Weekly: Help kids with science fair Topics Monthly: Continue Girls Room Purge AGAIN!(I can’t wait until I can cross this off)
Weds: Weekly: Cleaning Catch up; Monthly: Continue Boys room Purge AGAIN!
Thurs: Weekly/ Monthly: Cleaning Catch up
Fri: Weekly: Cleaning catch up; Monthly: Continue Kitchen purge.

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

FOCUS Goals for week of Feb 18, 2013



 FOCUS Goals for week of Feb 18, 2013
Simple solutions that work for Our House:
Problem: Mail build up.
Our Solution:

When I get the mail I sort it right away, trash, to do, file or read later.

Trash: Items go immediately into the trash; sometimes I do this before I even go back in the house.
To do (bills & other things with a time restraint): I open and write the date it has to be done or paid by on the outside of the envelope and put it in order by date in a container that hangs on my wall. It is in a location I walk by multiply times a day. So at a glance see the next pending date.
File: Items get taken to their file or my “to file” box (our file cabinet is in the basement).
To read later: Items with no deadline go into a different slot in my wall file. Every now and then it starts to bulge so I have to empty it and some things don’t seem as important to read anymore and make their way to the trash.
This instant sort has cut back my paper piles. Unfortunately that is not only paper that enters my house.
New Goals, comments, and excuses are in purple below.
Goals for a Better Home
1. Personal Focus to better my relationship with God.
Daily: Start and end each day with prayer. Read two chapters in the Bible. Pray the Serenity prayer every day.
Weekly/Weekly: Read Chapter 3 & 4 in “The Lamps Supper” and answer questions. Run 5 days.  The first study session was great. I am even more excited now, we have good reading and a great group of people to share with and learn from.

2. Remove distractions at key times.
Daily: No computer 6:30-8:00am and 3:00-5:00pm (after everyone is home)
Weekly: Control volunteering but still get things done! Finding the right balance is hard!
Monthly: CUT BACK ON ELECTRONIC TIME! Funny now my kids are calling me out on my electronic time, lead by example!  

3. Add something to give more of me to my family.
Daily: Give my family a proper send off and welcome home each day. Focused one on one time with each family member.  Family Lent study. Reading has been good it even has a question to talk about at the end I am glad we are doing it.
Weekly: Send a handwritten letter to someone that I do not see often. I am not sure why but this is not getting done!
Monthly: Take my husband on a date. We went to the Ash Weds Service as a family.
Goals for a Better House
1. Daily Check Points: Weekly Plan Sheet (Done)
2. Weekly & Monthly Tasks, Chores and To Do Lists: Weekly Plan Sheet & Monthly Cleaning Schedule. Cleaning was not good last week; I never seem to stay on track when the kids are out of school. Catch up this week is a must! Reintroduce the chore schedule we used in the past for my kids, I think when I get to this it will be a kid’s version of mine; they have been asking me about it since it is hanging on the fridge.
2 &3 Weekly/Monthly Project to Do List:
Monday: Weekly: Catch up on Laundry, Soccer emails, Dentist app, Prep Book Study, Soccer team handouts. Monthly: None
Tuesday: Weekly/Monthly: Review soccer league schedules. Send questions on new soccer building.
Weds: Weekly: None, Monthly: Finish Girls room Purge
Thurs: Weekly: Call about internet and Basement, Monthly: Finish Boys room Purge
Fri: Weekly: Cleaning catch up, Monthly: Finish Kitchen purge.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Marriage in Perfection





At our church around Valentine’s Day they recognize married couples. I am always excited to see and inspired by couples married 40-50+ years. How do they do it?  What makes them have the perfect marriage?  We are all taken by the fantasy of and striving for that “perfect marriage.”

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (New American Standard Bible)
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (NASB)

 A true statement of Love unfortunately people can so easily act the opposite. I’ll never forget once when my parents were arguing my Mom saying, “I do not like your Dad”. As a child this comment was kind of scary and I quickly said to settle my worries,”that’s not true Mom you love Dad.” She replied,” Oh I will always LOVE your dad but right now I don’t like him”. What a true statement in a marriage. Marriage is not perfect and marriage is not easy. There WILL be times you do not like the way each other is acting.  The sooner you realize that marriage is not that fairy tale love story you thought of as a child the happier you will be in your marriage.

Many people think living together helps you know if you are ready to get married. I disagree if a whether or not a person puts the toilet lid down would change how much you love someone then you probably don’t love them. If living habits dictated love all parents would struggle to love their children! Living habits are habits and they can change or sometimes you just get used to checking before you sit down. For better or for worse right?

God knew there would be worse, he knows human nature. What you should love a person for are their values, their strengths and weaknesses, their compassions, their dedication, their love. We all know that after you are married some of those “romantic” things go away. My husband sometimes jokes, “I used to do that when I was courting you.” If you sit down and think about what the media considers romance and what real romance is you realize they are not the same.  Before you were grandparents, parents, a husband or wife, you were dating. You might have received flowers on your 1 week anniversary and dates every Friday night. Those are things you probably got from other boyfriends or girlfriends too.  Outside of that though you saw something special in your spouse that made your heart smile and you knew you were meant to be together forever. Even now when you know their worst habits and you are so busy with life you may rarely have time alone together that your eyelids are not fighting to close to sleep, you are both still that person who once gave each other butterflies when going out together.

So take a minute and look at them through the eyes you discovered them and then add to that the thousands of things that have added to your love for them throughout your marriage. Think of the romance that is still present.  It may be as simple as buying you your favorite candy bar. Combine all those things and you will likely fall head over heels for them again.

Having the perfect marriage is not about never fighting, amazing romance, and always being at your best. It’s about fighting and forgiving, appreciating the small moments together in a busy life and loving each other even when your crabby wearing baggy sweats with bad breath and messy hair.  
 
In honor of Valentine’s Day (a few days late) do some of the things you used to do before adult life happened. There is no need to be elaborate. Sit beside each other and watch TV, fight the urge to dose off and stay up late together to play a game or watch a movie or just talk. Hold hands, dance in the kitchen and sleep right beside each other and smile as you dose to the music of their snores. Pray together.  You will Fall in Love all over again and see the perfection you have in your marriage.

 Happy Valentine’s Day on Thursday.  (As my 3 year old told us on Saturday)